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Vatican Christmas Shocker! Pope says child rape isn’t that bad, was normal back in his day!


Victims of clerical sex abuse have reacted furiously to Pope Benedict’s claim yesterday that paedophilia wasn’t considered an “absolute evil” as recently as the 1970s.

In his traditional Christmas address yesterday to cardinals and officials working in Rome, Pope Benedict XVI also claimed that child pornography was increasingly considered “normal” by society.

“In the 1970s, paedophilia was theorised as something fully in conformity with man and even with children,” the Pope said.

“It was maintained – even within the realm of Catholic theology – that there is no such thing as evil in itself or good in itself. There is only a ‘better than’ and a ‘worse than’. Nothing is good or bad in itself.”

The Pope said abuse revelations in 2010 reached “an unimaginable dimension” which brought “humiliation” on the Church.

Asking how abuse exploded within the Church, the Pontiff called on senior clerics “to repair as much as possible the injustices that occurred” and to help victims heal through a better presentation of the Christian message.

“We cannot remain silent about the context of these times in which these events have come to light,” he said, citing the growth of child pornography “that seems in some way to be considered more and more normal by society” he said.

But outraged Dublin victim Andrew Madden last night insisted that child abuse was not considered normal in the company he kept.

Mr Madden accused the Pope of not knowing that child pornography was the viewing of images of children being sexually abused, and should be named as such.

He said: “That is not normal. I don’t know what company the Pope has been keeping for the past 50 years.”

Pope Benedict also said sex tourism in the Third World was “threatening an entire generation”.

Angry abuse victims in America last night said that while some Church officials have blamed the liberalism of the 1960s for the Church’s sex abuse scandals and cover-up catastrophes, Pope Benedict had come up with a new theory of blaming the 1970s.

“Catholics should be embarrassed to hear their Pope talk again and again about abuse while doing little or nothing to stop it and to mischaracterise this heinous crisis,” said Barbara Blaine, the head of SNAP, the Survivors Network of those Abused by Priests,

“It is fundamentally disturbing to watch a brilliant man so conveniently misdiagnose a horrific scandal,” she added.

“The Pope insists on talking about a vague ‘broader context’ he can’t control, while ignoring the clear ‘broader context’ he can influence – the long-standing and unhealthy culture of a rigid, secretive, all-male Church hierarchy fixated on self-preservation at all costs. This is the ‘context’ that matters.”

The latest controversy comes as the German magazine Der Spiegel continues to investigate the Pope’s role in allowing a known paedophile priest to work with children in the early 1980s.

Spousal abuse: Generally as many males as females!


Posted on April 15, 2011 by Marjorie Hogan
When we think of spousal abuse we generally think of women being the victims. However, almost as many men as women experience spousal/partner abuse. Yet, you don’t see a movie of the week about it or seldom read about it in the papers. We know that the statistics that are beginning to be reported under estimate the actual instances of abuse. If family violence in general is the ‘family secret’ then abuse against men is hidden even further in the shadows than abuse against women. Why is this? I would love to hear some perspectives on this. From my vantage point it seems likely that much of the silence around abuse of men has to do with the socialization process of males and females in our society. From a young age males are generally conditioned to believe that they need to be the stronger gender and the protectors in the family. It is not okay to discuss feelings and most certainly not to admit that you are the victim of abuse. This is reinforced by society on a regular basis. Men are supposed to act like ‘men’ in some antiquated notion of what it means to be a man in our society. Over the last couple of decades women have gained strength in speaking out against spousal abuse against them. However, it seems that we need to recognize that spousal abuse is equally an issue for men. How do we approach this? Do we need to speak more of spousal abuse as an equal gender experience? Do we need to speak of different issues related to men and women when it comes to spousal abuse? How do we education our children that abuse in any form is not okay so that the next generation of children will not find themselves in