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By C. A. Webb “Conversations Book Club” (Jackson, MS) – Review of Teddy Bear: Stolen Innocence!


By C. A. Webb “Conversations Book Club” (Jackson, MS) – See all my reviews

In TEDDY BEAR: Stolen Innocence Dr. Loren Due and others share what are very painful and at times unimaginable slivers of their lives as they dealt with abuse. The book begins with Due, himself, taking us into his own pain that unfortunately began in the home with his father and brother and led to choices in life that took him away from the person he was destined to be. Inside of the house where the abuse was born, however, we also learn a great deal about how some families choose to deal with circumstances that might arise in the home as well as issues of mental illness that may not be diagnosed until much later.

While many would choose to hate because of what they have been forced to endure, Dr. Due and those whose stories you get a chance to read take a different approach. They choose to become survivors and forgive those who who did them harm. This is not something that comes easy for some, but that was for me one of the most powerful lessons of this book. The EASY thing would be to hold on to the hate and resentment. It takes strength and courage to forgive and love in spite of. This doesn’t mean that you are condoning the actions, but that you choose to give up judgment to someone higher than you.

Dr. Due even says in the book that he has become a better person in various aspects of his life because of what he has survived. He knows what is right and wrong, and he chooses to do what is right. It’s all about choice.

No matter what we have gone through, there is a lesson for all of us in this. Forgiveness has the power to break any of the chains that might try and bind us to the past. We have to be willing to move forward and let the knowledge of the experiences of our lives to help us be the person we were created to be.

I also want to stress the importance of breaking the silence and letting it be known what is not to be accepted when it comes to our lives. Part of what the abuser uses is the threat that comes with speaking out. We have to know that by telling, by reporting the abuse, we are actually taking the power back that belongs to us—and we are making sure that this doesn’t have to happen to anyone else.

Difficult at times to read but important for us all, TEDDY BEAR: Stolen Innocence is a book that will stay with you forever.

As bond is set neighbors react to child prostitution charges!


HORRY COUNTY, SC (WMBF) – A judge set bond Friday for an Horry County woman charged with prostituting a 12-year-old girl in her family.

Robbie Blankenship is charged with unlawful neglect of a child and promotion or participation of prostitution of a minor. Her bond for the charges totaled $20,000.

As of Friday afternoon she had not posted bond and remained in jail at J. Reuben Long Detention Center.

Until a week ago, the girl lived near a 25-year-old man who has been charged with sex crimes involving the girl.

Danny Dewayne Hardee is charged with kidnapping, contributing to the delinquency of a minor, lewd act upon a child, and criminal sexual conduct with a minor. His combined bond was $37,500. As of Friday afternoon he had posted bond and was scheduled to be released after having a monitoring device placed around his ankle.

Horry County Police Lt. Jamie DeBari said the preteen girl and the man were having a relationship, and Blankenship was benefiting.

Police learned about the alleged criminal activity after the girl ran away and was reported missing Tuesday. DeBari said police found the girl with Hardee.

People who live in the neighborhood where Hardee lives, and where the girl had lived, said a complicated situation that has been going on for too long may finally be coming to an end.

“Hopefully it brings some peace to the neighborhood,” commented Jonathan Faulk. “They ain’t got to worry about it no more.”

Jake Matthews rents a home from Hardee near the intersection of Privetts Road and Whispering Woods Road, and he said lots of people have known for a while that something was up.

“Everybody wanted it to change, but it just never happened,” Matthews said. “It’s just crazy how it happened like this.”

Other neighbors say the relationship was reported to the Department of Social Services.

“You can be concerned but if it gets reported and nothing’s happening, whatcha going to do? Is it a family matter or what?” questioned Terrell Anderson.

Anderson owns a skating rink on Privetts Road. He said like many people he had heard about something inappropriate going on, but he was uncertain about what to do.

“Nobody knew what to do,” explained Matthews. “It’s just complicated because nobody wanted to get in trouble… and it’s a big mess.”

Matthews said he has a hard time believing that Blankenship was taking a kick-back for the relationship. He said she seemed to not even acknowledge that something was going on between the girl and Hardee. “I really can’t see her getting money or anything like that in return,” Matthews said. “I just can’t see it. Maybe she did. I just don’t know.

“It might have went down like that, but I know she, if she knew about it she probably didn’t want to believe it with everything, but I don’t know.”

Anderson said he was upset that the situation according to police is even worse than he realized.

“They shouldn’t have been trading this for that just to survive,” Anderson said. “There’s other ways.”

He said he now believes Blankenship and Hardee were blackmailing each other to keep the situation quiet.

Now that police are involved, with Blankenship and Hardee charged, Faulk said he hopes for a final resolution.

“Hopefully he learns his lesson, and the most important thing is that little girl is alright,” Faulk said.

Blankenship and Hardee will have a chance to defend themselves against the charges. A date for their court appearances has not been set.

Boy of 13 put on sex offenders’ register for child porn!


By Paul Peachey

A 13-year-old boy became one of the youngest people to be listed on the sex offenders’ register yesterday after more than 300 images of child abuse were found on his computer.

A judge told the boy, who cannot be named for legal reasons, that he had become an “unwitting victim” in an internet child porn ring, but was placed on the register for two-and-a-half years.

He was also given an 18-month supervision order on condition he went on a rehabilitation course after a total of 326 images were found on the hard drive of his computer.

They showed young children involved in sexual acts as well as six images involving a baby. The boy admitted nine counts of possessing indecent images of children.

Teesside Youth Court was told that the boy, from Thornaby, Stockton-on-Tees, had logged on using an obscene pseudonym to a chatroom in search of teenage girls of a similar age.

Officers from Greater Manchester Police monitored the chatroom as part of a four-month surveillance operation, which has led to more than 30 arrests across Britain.

Cleveland police officers raided the boy’s home expecting to find an adult paedophile, the court was told, and were surprised to find that the child was involved.

District Judge James Prowse accepted that the boy had not known the exact content of what was downloaded. He said: “You are in an unusual position and this is an unusual and disturbing case.

“It is an unusual case because of your age. The courts much more usually find they deal with adult individuals who have an unhealthy interest in these images.

“It is a disturbing case in that someone as young as you was so readily able to get access to this type of material, not just photos of girls of young age, but children engaging in thoroughly indecent acts.

“You yourself became an unwitting victim of the pornography that is available on the internet to be peddled.”

He added: “All the indications are you are being well brought up in a secure family environment.”

The judge ordered the hard drive on the boy’s computer be destroyed, but allowed the rest of the equipment to be returned to his family.

Although the boy was the youngest person in Cleveland to go on the register, the Home Office said it believed there were younger offenders elsewhere in the country.

St. Louis Pastor Gets Over 3 Years in Prison for Child Pornography!


A former St. Louis-area pastor has been ordered to spend three years and one month in federal prison on child pornography charges.
The St. Louis Post-Dispatch reported that 50-year-old Andrew Spallek of Florissant was sentenced Tuesday in St. Louis, three months after he pleaded guilty to possessing child pornography.
Spallek was pastor of Salem Lutheran Church in Black Jack until resigning last September, just before he was indicted. He once held various positions with the Missouri District of the Lutheran Church-Missouri Synod.
Court documents show that he was snared in a global child pornography investigation because of his membership in an online bulletin board used to share child porn.

Spallek also has been ordered to spend life on supervised release after his prison term

Securing rights of adolescent girls is critical for achieving development goals


Parliamentarians convene to address accelerated action to fight gender discrimination and promote the well-being of adolescent girls

 

ADDIS ABABA, Ethiopia, 8 April 2009 – Parliamentarians are convening in Addis Ababa today to address the urgent need for accelerated progress in protecting the rights of adolescent girls and ending gender discrimination if development goals are to be met.

Parliamentarians attending the 120th Assembly of the Inter-Parliamentary Union (IPU) will discuss the role they can play in securing the rights of adolescent girls to survival, health care, education, protection and participation.

 ”Addressing discrimination and promoting the well-being and empowerment of adolescent girls is not only a question of human rights and gender equality, it is also at the core of development and achieving the Millennium Development Goals,” said IPU President Dr. Theo-Ben Gurirab, who is also Speaker of the National Assembly of the Republic of Namibia.  “Gender-based discrimination permeates all of our societies, with no exception, and we need to address that as a matter of urgency. Among those most affected, though often forgotten and invisible, are adolescent girls. We need to make their plight visible.”

 Gender-based discrimination and gender inequalities – often passed on from generation to generation by cultural tradition and economic, social and political norms – have numerous harmful effects on adolescent girls. In many parts of the world the largest percentage of children out of school and of victims of physical, sexual, emotional abuse and economic exploitation are girls. Girls are more likely to be trafficked, to disappear or to die unknown.

 Programmes that promote schooling, livelihood skills, social assets, freedom from violence, positive health-seeking behaviours and better access to sexual and reproductive health education and services for adolescent girls will have ripple effects across different development goals. They will help reduce maternal mortality and associated child mortality (MDGs 4 and 5), reduce HIV infection (MDG 6), promote gender equality (MDG 3) and contribute to poverty reduction (MDG 1).

 Dr. Nicholas Alipui, UNICEF Director of Programmes, said that a “safe, healthy, educated and economically empowered girl can meet the challenges of poverty and ignite progress. An educated and empowered girl will be better able to take care of herself and to contribute to her community and country both economically as an individual and as a potential mother. With the right opportunities, an adolescent girl will marry later, have fewer children, and invest almost 90 percent of her income back into her family. Investing in adolescent girls will not only benefit girls themselves, but society as a whole.”

 Despite the profound impact that educated, empowered adolescent girls can have on breaking the cycle of poverty, less than half a cent of every international development dollar is spent on them. 

 During a joint panel organized by the IPU and UNICEF and chaired by the first lady of Ethiopia, Ms. Azeb Mesfin, herself a member of parliament and Chair of the Social Affairs Committee, parliamentarians focused on three key ways they can improve the lives of adolescent girls. They are:

  • Investing in educating adolescent girls. Too often adolescent girls are excluded from school because of poverty, the need to work, marital status and pregnancy. Adolescents who are not in school are hard to reach with health information or services and are more vulnerable to violence and coercion.
  • Promoting an end to violence against girls in all settings – in the home, in school, and in the immediate community. Parliamentarians can work to support child-friendly schools and communities. They can ensure that law enforcement agencies, health care providers and community leaders are aware of their responsibility to protect all girls from all forms of violence and to provide support to those who are victims of violence. While violence is present across the life cycle, sexual violence in particular increases during adolescence. Child marriage and early child-bearing, female genital mutilation/cutting, trafficking for commercial sex, abduction into sex slavery at the hands of military forces – these are just a few of the challenges facing adolescent girls.
  • Building partnerships with the private sector and government to ensure that girls have opportunities to make a successful transition from school to work. It is essential to build the skills of adolescent girls and enhance opportunities for them to participate more equally in the critical and routine decision-making processes that affect their lives and help them develop leadership capacities, network and secure their economic independence.

Parliamentarians also discussed how they can work within their own constituencies to ensure that the voices of girls are heard and to help build the life skills that will enable adolescent girls to participate in public life, including the economic life, of their countries.
Key to promoting the well-being of adolescent girls is reaching even the most marginalized among them – those who are socially excluded, unprotected and living in the most marginalized, forgotten families.

“We must reach out to all children who remain invisible to our efforts,” Alipui said. “Reaching the most marginalized adolescent girls cannot always be done by doing more of the same; special efforts and increased investments need to be made to reach all adolescent girls with the protection and services they deserve.”