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The downside of ‘friends with benefits’


By Elizabeth Cohen, CNN senior medical correspondent

(CNN) — When Jennifer Nicholas sees television shows or movies where characters “hook up” or have sex with “friends with benefits,” she cringes, because that’s how she got herpes.

“Getting an STD wasn’t even something that crossed my mind,” said Nicholas, 39, who learned that she had herpes at age 22. “One day I’m at the doctor’s office and it was, ‘Surprise! You’ve got herpes.’ ”

Experts in sexually transmitted diseases say they’ve become increasingly concerned about the trend toward having what they call “sexual involvement in nonromantic contexts” — the technical term for hookups or “friends with benefits” — because they’re especially likely to spread sexually transmitted diseases.

The concern is that that people who have nonromantic relationships tend to have several partners at one time — “concurrency,” in sexual behavior lingo — in contrast to people engaged in romantic relationships, who tend to be monogamous for the duration of the romance.

“We’re concerned that concurrency is speeding up the transmission of sexually transmitted diseases,” said Tony Paik, an assistant professor of sociology at the University of Iowa who recently published a study on the subject.

“This is a direct route for spreading STDs. There are important implications here for public health,” he added.

In Paik’s study, published last month in the journal Perspectives on Sexual and Reproductive Health, he found that 17 percent of men and 5 percent of women had at some point had more than one sexual partner at a time. Seventeen percent of women and 8 percent of men said they’d been exclusive but their partner had not.

For both genders, having sex with a friend made someone less likely to be monogamous.

“Sex with the ex”

Peggy Giordano, a professor of sociology at Bowling Green State University, studies the sexual behavior of young people, and she’s also concerned about the phenomenon of having sex in nonromantic ways.

“It seems more acceptable now to have nonromantic sexual encounters,” said Giordano, who’s studied the sex lives of 1,300 teens and young adults in Lucas County, Ohio. “When there’s no romance, there’s no basis for demanding fidelity from the other person.”

She says it’s not just the number of partners at one time; it’s that people’s behavior seems to be different when they’re having “friendly” sex in contrast to romantic sex.

When people have sex with a friend, they tend to be more trusting that the person doesn’t have a sexually transmitted disease and therefore fail to use a condom, she says.

“If you’ve known a person for a while, you don’t have that vigilance. You’re probably not going to ask them to go and get tested for STDs,” Giordano said. (To find out whether you should get a test for an STD, you can take this quiz.)

The U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention can help you find a testing site near you.

This lack of vigilance about STDs is especially true when the sexual partner is a former boyfriend or girlfriend, she adds.

“We’re finding that ‘sex with the ex’ is a very common experience,” said Giordano, who’s been studying the group of Ohio youth since 2001.

“It’s seemingly safe, since they used to be your girlfriend or boyfriend. But of course you don’t know what they’ve done since you broke up. You don’t know their full portfolio of partners,” she said.

What are the chances?

Through her work with the Atlanta H Club, a social and support group for adults with herpes or the human papillomavirus, Nicholas is now more aware of the chances that a prospective partner could have a sexually transmitted disease.

It’s impossible to say precisely what the chances are you’ll catch an STD from any one person, but there are studies that can give you a clue. One important factor to keep in mind: For biological reasons, women are more likely to catch an STD from a man than vice versa.

Human papillomavirus

HPV is the most common sexually transmitted disease in the United States, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

About one in four U.S. females age 14 to 59 has HPV, according to a 2007 study in the Journal of the American Medical Association. The HPV rate was highest — 44 percent — for women ages 20 to 24.

HPV is not as common in men, according to a 2006 article in the Journal of Infectious Diseases, but is still “highly prevalent.” The study, which looked at 40 studies on HPV and men, found that 56 percent of the reports found that at least one in five men had HPV.

Herpes

Nearly one in five Americans has herpes simplex virus, according to a 2006 study in the Journal of the American Medical Association. The rates for women were higher than for men: 23 percent, compared with 11 percent. Rates were especially high among African-Americans.

Gonorrhea

Your chances of getting gonorrhea from a sexual encounter are significantly lower than your chances of getting HPV or herpes. A 2007 study in the Annals of Internal Medicine showed a 0.24 percent prevalence rate. Rates were highest among teens but still less than 1 percent.

Chlamydia

Nearly half of the people in the above study who had gonorrhea also had chlamydia, but again, infection rates were significantly lower than for HPV and herpes.

According to a 2007 report in the Annals of Internal Medicine, 2.2 percent of Americans ages 14 to 39 had chlamydia. The rates were highest for teenage girls (4.6 percent) and for black women (7.2 percent).

Red Panties! This is the beginning of my story:1946 – 1986.


Red Panties represents the title of my memoir that I am writing these days and desire to have available for your reading pleasure soon. The memoir will cover the period of 1946 through 1986 and reveal the types of things that I went through being a Christian saved and sanctified with the gift of Holy Spirit speaking in tongues and a Sex Addict simultaneously.

This book will reveal how God in His mercy blessed me to overcome being sexually abused as a child, raped and molested. The book will show how God blessed me to transition from my childhood sexual tragedies to becoming a fully fledged sexual addict and finally receiving complete healing and deliverance by God Himself.

His Word says that “He sent His Word and healed them of all their destructions.” That is exactly what God did for me by blessing me to forgive and unconditionally love my father, brother and sister who were my abusers. You will say where my mother was – she worked three and four jobs to keep us from being hungry, homeless and helping my dad build a church.

I know my assignment is to uncover, expose and be one of the many catalysts to get people talking about the taboo of sex so that the spirit of shame, embarrassment and guilt is broken and bringing healing to those who desire help.

It is now time for others abused like me (male and female) to be able to confront our abusers and release ourselves from the bondage that has held so many in silences for too long. This is necessary even if the abuser claims to be innocent as I found out when I confronted my brother. I never did get to confront my father, but I have forgiven and love him unconditionally which the Lord blessed me to do rather than for me to go to hell with the hate that was in my heart for my father. My sister and I have reconciled and we chat periodically.

Only God could deliver me from sexual addiction since the world system does not believe you can be delivered.

Red Panties will be graphic to make the point for you to know that no matter how deep the sin and sinful behavior God delivers. Red Panties is actually the book that represents my behavior before I wrote “Don’t Say a Word About This! Exposing and Confronting Sexual Perversion!”

In Red Panties you will learn just how the Lord brought me out of sexual perversion and how he has given me the ability to help those who desire to be free totally in body, mind and soul from what I believe to be the most addictive behavior on the planet – sexual addiction.

Red Panties is written in a style that may offend some Christians and cause them to cringe at its candor and detail. This detail is written to let you know that I know what I am talking about and how I can help you that desire to be helped with love and understanding. The book is not about condemning anyone or character assassination, but rather exposing the truth as I experienced it.

God desires the best for all of us, but each individual needs to want to receive God and enjoy Gods best here on this planet. He will not make us do anything we do not want to do.

You will be able to order your copy of Red Panties soon.

Loren C. Due, Ph.D.
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Family: Mo. child sex abuse claims are ‘repulsive’


Family members of five men charged in a bizarre child sex abuse case reacted with disbelief and sadness Thursday to the “unspeakable” string of alleged atrocities spanning two decades.

“It’s unspeakable. I can’t think of words that would put this in perspective. I find it repulsive if it’s true,” said Darrel Mohler, a brother of one of the five men charged.

The men — a father and his four adult sons — were dressed in orange jumpsuits and shackled at their wrists, waists and ankles on Thursday when they made their first court appearance. Associate Circuit Judge John Frerking read the charges against them, including forcible sodomy, rape with a child younger than 12 and use of a child in a sexual performance.

Burrell Edward Mohler Sr., 77, of Independence, looked ill, keeping his eyes closed during much of the proceeding and coughing several times.

The other suspects are Mohler’s sons: Burrell Edward Mohler Jr., 53, of Independence; Jared Leroy Mohler, 48, of Columbia; Roland Neil Mohler, 47, of Bates City; and David A. Mohler, 52, of Lamoni, Iowa.

Missouri State Highway Patrol arrested a sixth suspect late Thursday, a 55-year-old man from Kansas City. The man is suspected in the rape of a child less than 14 years old, the highway patrol said in a statement. The suspect is an “associate” of the Mohler family, the statement said.

The allegations against the Mohlers — including bestiality, forcing children into fake marriages with relatives and making an 11-year-old have an abortion — date from 1988 to 1995.

The men did not enter pleas and said little during the 20-minute hearing. They did not appear to have legal representation. The judge told them they could apply for public defenders.

The men are being held on cash bonds ranging from $30,000 to $75,000. Their next court hearing is scheduled for Nov. 17.

Darrel Mohler, brother of Burrell Mohler Sr., said Thursday that he hasn’t seen his brother for years and the two were never close. “I’m 72, and this kind of struck me right in the gut,” he said.

Merrill Clark, 63, a cousin of Burrell Mohler Sr.’s, said he attended the men’s hearing hoping to get a sense “of their guilt or innocence.”

“But I went away not much better than I was before,” said Clark, of Lenexa, Kan. “Burrell looks like a broken old man. … His hearing aid wasn’t turned up quite enough. He never looked at me.”

Clark said he did, however, make eye contact with David Mohler.

“I wanted to cry, and he appeared to be about the same way,” Clark said. “But again, was he glad to see me for support, or was he embarrassed to see me? I can’t really believe it. But I know it could be true.”

Clark said when he heard about the charges against the five men his “chin kind of hit the floor.”

“As far as I know they have been very upstanding citizens. It’s just hard to believe,” he said. “But anything is possible in this day and age.”

Authorities resumed a search Thursday at a rural property outside Bates City, about 30 miles east of Kansas City, Mo., where members of the Mohler family once lived. They believe they may find a body or bodies and buried glass jars with notes written by children who may have documented sexual abuse.

“There has been an indication that there are body or bodies in numerous locations,” Lafayette County Sheriff Kerrick Alumbaugh said Wednesday, although he would not say whose bodies they might be.

Cpl. Bill Lowe of the Missouri State Highway Patrol said Thursday that about 50 law enforcement officials are involved in the case, and that several leads have come in since the arrests Tuesday.

“It’s 55 acres, so it’s quite a bit of land,” Lowe said. “We’re still searching the area and doing lead follow-ups. We’re getting substantial amount of leads that we need to track down and verify.”

Alumbaugh earlier pleaded for the public’s help, saying investigators “believe that there are other victims out there” and that the public can provide more information.

“The case has taken 100 turns since our last news conference,” Alumbaugh said Thursday. He wouldn’t discuss what, if anything, investigators have found on the property, except to say that authorities may have another suspect. He wouldn’t elaborate.

On Thursday afternoon, crews dug with a backhoe in front of a garage on the property. The excavation previously had taken place about 200 yards from a house in a wooded area.

Authorities said a 26-year-old woman came forward to investigators in mid-August with allegations of sexual abuse that began in the 1980s and continued until about 1995. A probable cause statement released by the Lafayette County prosecutor’s office says five other siblings of the woman have accused all five men of abuse, but it’s unclear if all the siblings were claiming to be victims.

“Each of the victims is being interviewed, and we’re still collecting all of that,” Lowe said Thursday.

Highway patrol said Thursday night it had identified “additional victims in the case.”

Lowe said the woman told investigators that she and her siblings had buried glass jars around the property that were filled with messages they had written “about what was happening to them” when they were younger. The woman said she had “suppressed many of the memories of abuse perpetrated on her” and her siblings, according to the probable cause statement.

The Associated Press is not revealing details that could identify the alleged victims of sexual abuse.

Three of the five men are lay ministers in the Community of Christ church whose licenses have been suspended, church spokeswoman Linda L. Booth said.

Booth said Wednesday that none of the Mohlers served in leadership roles in the congregations they attended “nor did they serve as volunteer youth workers, teach children or youth church school, or work with children or youth.”

“The church takes seriously the allegations that have been made and suspended the priesthood licenses of three lay ministers: Burrell Mohler Sr., David Mohler and Jared Mohler,” the church said in a statement.

Out of the Shadows


After meeting for years on anonymous and secret Web sites, pro-anorexia groups are now moving to more public forums like Facebook.

A Web page labeled “Ana Boot Camp” recently offered its members a seemingly irresistible proposition: a 30-day regimen designed to help them drop some serious pounds, no exercise needed. The catch was that the group’s members were to vary their daily caloric intake from 500 (less than half the daily minimum requirement for women recommended by the American College of Sports Medicine) to zero. They were supposed to track their progress, fast to make up for the days they accidentally “overate” and support each other as they worked toward their common goal of radical weight loss.

Pro-anorexia, or “pro-ana,” Web sites (with more than one using the “Ana Boot Camp” name) have for years been a controversial Internet fixture, with users sharing extreme diet tips and posting pictures of emaciated girls under headlines such as “thinspiration.” But what was unusual about the site mentioned above (which is no longer available) was where it was hosted: the ubiquitous social networking site Facebook.com. The (largely female) users who frequent pro-ana sites have typically done so anonymously, posting under pseudonyms and using pictures of fashion models to represent themselves. Now, as the groups increasingly launch pages on Facebook, linking users’ real-life profiles to their eating disorders, the heated conversation around anorexia has become more public. Many pro-ana Facebookers say the groups provide an invaluable support system to help them cope with their disease, but psychologists worry that the growth of such groups could encourage eating disorders in others.

Rose, 17, a Maryland high-school senior who, like several other women interviewed for this story, asked to be identified only by her first name, was active in pro-ana Facebook groups for two years. There, she found a community of people like her—people who had a disease with which few of their friends could identify. “These sites provided a setting where I could talk about the illness without people trying to fix me or tell me that what I’m doing is horrible, disgusting, maladaptive,” she says. “For me, part of the illness was just about getting attention. You feel so lonely and you want someone to notice you, and I guess that’s kind of the way to do it, even with other sick people.”

Many members of the Facebook groups have migrated over from other social networking sites, like MySpace and Xanga. “Facebook’s the most personable,” Rose says. “If you’re on something like MySpace, that’s famous for creepy old men. Facebook seems the safest.” Kate, a 20-year-old Utah college student, says being able to see people’s faces, friends and interests on their Facebook sites makes for a more intimate community. “It’s a lot more of a support group for pro-ana,” she says. “MySpace was more focused on tips and tricks and when to exercise. [On Facebook], there’s a lot of really close networking, so you add those people as friends and exchange phone numbers, and when you’re having a hard day, you talk on the phone.”

Dr. Steven Crawford, associate director of the Center for Eating Disorders at Sheppard Pratt in Baltimore, sees the openness of the Facebook site as part of its appeal. Increasing numbers of teenage patients at the center are joining Facebook groups that proclaim their disorders to the world, which Crawford believes is a means of adolescent rebellion: “It’s almost like putting it in your face: I have an eating disorder. I am anorexic.”

Pro-ana group creators insist that they aren’t recruiting anorexics and are just supporting each other. In fact, there are some groups that are legitimately focused on recovery. Still, the effects of even such makeshift support groups are likely not as benign as some fans claim. “The more types of these sites that you use, the higher your risk for disordered eating is,” says Stanford professor Rebecka Peebles, M.D., acknowledging that that correlation doesn’t prove that the sites necessarily contribute to the disorder. A 2006 study that she coauthored found that 96 percent of teens diagnosed with eating disorders who visited pro-eating disorder Web sites learned new dieting and purging techniques, and almost 50 percent of teens who visited sites ostensibly devoted to eating disorder recovery also learned new weight-loss tips.

Can a girl sexually abuse herself?


A 15-year-old faces child porn charges after distributing naked self-portraits.

Tracy Clark-Flory

Oct. 11, 2008 |
This is unbelievable: A 15-year-old Ohio girl currently faces juvenile child pornography charges for allegedly taking and distributing nude photos of herself.

 

 

After Licking Valley High School officials discovered the photos on the girl’s phone and tipped off police last Friday, she was arrested, held in jail over the weekend and charged with possession of criminal tools and illegal use of a minor in nudity-oriented material, ABC reports. If convicted, she could spend several years in juvenile detention and be forced to register as a sex offender for the next 20 years of her life (although, since she is a first-time offender and a minor, the judge could decide against making her register).

 

 

What’s more, charges might still be filed against the students who received the photos, regardless of whether they received them unwillingly. State law holds that “anyone possessing material that shows a minor in a state of nudity is guilty of a fifth-degree felony,” according to the Newark Advocate. If convicted, they could face registration as a sex offender for 10 years.

 

 

Clearly, the states’ child porn laws were not written to address these types of situations — and they do not take into consideration the technology at kids’ disposal. There are now infinite ways for teenagers to virtually play-act their sexuality. Are minors guilty of sexually abusing themselves for engaging in this kind of exploration in all of the many (admittedly frightening) ways available to them? How can we consider minors both incapable of giving legally meaningful sexual consent and criminal should they make a sexual decision for themselves without an adult’s involvement?

 

 

That’s not to say that some punishment — whether it’s meted out by their parents, the school or the law — isn’t reasonable in this case. After all, the general reaction to a teenage boy sending out explicit photos of himself to female classmates would likely, and rightly, be that it was sexual harassment — why should it be any different if a girl is the sender? Also, distributing nude photos of yourself is potentially self-endangering behavior that should be addressed — obviously.

 

 

But calling this girl a sex offender for distributing pornographic images of herself is crazy-talk. We have to acknowledge that, however unprepared she was to make the decision, she does have ownership over her own body; her sexual choice is not the same as an adult making a sexual choice for her.

 

 

 

 

– Tracy Clark-Flory

 

 

Televangelist’s ex-husband seeks new wife on Web


Televangelist’s ex-husband seeks new wife on Web

DULUTH, Ga. (AP) — The ex-husband of national televangelist Juanita Bynum, who divorced after a parking lot fight between the two landed him in jail, plans to take his search for a new wife to the Internet with videos featuring dating tips and what he’s looking for in a mate.

Thomas W. Weeks III, a minister who runs an Atlanta-area church and is known to his followers as Bishop Weeks, said the 10-episode series will be available starting Tuesday on his Web site.

Excerpts available Friday included Weeks, 41, discussing with aides what he should look for in his third wife.

The group concludes the woman should be at least 25 years old but “with special exemptions for 21 and up if they are classy,” Weeks said. She also must want to have children with him.

“This woman has to be very discerning, and very intimate, and very social and very sensual,” Weeks says, laughing. “And on the ministry side she has to be very diverse. She can’t be ugly.”

Bynum, 49, filed for divorce after the couple had an August, 2007, fight in an Atlanta hotel parking lot that landed Weeks in jail on charges that he pushed, choked and beat Bynum.

He pleaded guilty to assaulting her, is serving three years’ probation and has completed court ordered community service and anger management counseling.

In a video on the Web site of his Duluth-based church, Global Destiny International Ministries, Weeks said thousands of people have been writing him to ask about his plans as a newly single man.

He said he wants to give people a Christian perspective on dating.

“Who is going to be the next Mrs. Weeks? Well, God knows,” Weeks said. In the video, he asks viewers to e-mail him dating advice.

Messages left for Weeks at the church were not returned Friday morning. Bynum’s Los Angeles-based publicist also did not return calls.

If Weeks does find love, his attorney Randy Kessler told The Associated Press Friday, “I’d probably do the prenup for free.”

Let’s Talk Sex


Let us talk about sex in a way that you will not hear in most churches or some homes. Sex is not dirty when done in a way to give God glory and thanksgiving for a most precious gift. Most churches and ministers are not prepared to share with you straight sex talk and in the same breathe show you in the Bible where it is crossed referenced. We are not here to bash ministers because I am one, but we are going to cover sex from A to Z in the Bible and out of the Bible.

If you are a Christian, you have been expecting your minister to follow the instruction given by the Apostle Paul in Ephesians 4th chapter. The Apostle Paul instructs those called to teach the body of Christ to “equip” the saints. Are you equipped with an informed understanding of sex in the church and out of it? Since we are tripartite being consisting of body, soul and spirit, it is most important for the body to know its full function in an era where most emphasis by Christian teachers relates to the spirit. It is time that you be equipped with more than a working knowledge of money, why not be exposed to what so many are looking for on the internet and in empty relationships – love.

Recently in a conversation with a minister over 50 it was disclosed that he was elated to know he would be able if his wife agreed to it, to enjoy sex even in his 60’s, 70’s and 80’s if they maintain their health. So many people seem to think that sex stops when you turn 55 or 60. For some unhealthy reason some who are avid Christians are under the impression that if they are not having sex to produce an offspring they should not have sex. Wow. Chronological age does not stop you, but rather your mental attitude.

Are you living a healthy life now, so when you come to the age of retirement you will be able to enjoy all aspects of life, including sex? Yes, Christians like anybody else should enjoy sex after they bear children. As we see from the Bible most people, including priest married and lived long healthy lives. The reason Jesus did not marry allowed him to be an unblemished sacrifice for the world. The lie that some religions tell that they are not marrying as priest is deception to make the world think they are holy because they are not married.

We will talk in more detail about what the Bible has to say about sexual relations, however, for now let’s say it is very healthy to have sexual relations when you are married, otherwise abstinence is the way to go.

Why do some married couples when they feel they have enough children decide that they should have an abortion instead of giving the child that God blessed them with up for adoption?

Abortion in America illustrates to the world how some Americans feel about the gift of life. It is interesting that Abortion and Abstinence both start with the letter “A”. Is there a link between the two words other than the actions taken by the individual? Abortion is the easy way out of the situation of unwanted pregnancy. Arjeana will discuss abortion in a future article.

Marriage and divorce statistics cause many to wonder if the institution that God created will survive – yes it will. The people who are making those accusations operate without knowledge God’s provision for humankind. For those who believe the Bible, God established marriage in the book of Genesis and it will remain one of God’s established institutions until Jesus returns for his bride. Premarital counseling needs to be stringent for couples before they marry that will provide better preparation for marriage. Too many people enter into marriage immature and unprepared for some of life’s basic challenges.

As this newsletter develops over time, we will discuss the following topics:

· Abortion

· Abstinence

· Abusers

· Adultery

· Ahab

· Anal Sex

· And more

· Arousal

· Asexuality

· Bisexuality

· Coitus

· Concubine

· Cross-dressing

· Deception

· Effeminate

· Eunuchs

· Excitement

· Exhibitionism

· Fetish

· Fornication

· Harlots

· Homosexuality

· Idolatry

· Incest

· Jezebel

· Lasciviousness

· Lesbianism

· Lingerie

· Lovers

· Lust

· Lust of the eye

· Lust of the flesh

· Lying

· Marriage

· Masochism

· Masturbation

· Mixed marriages

· Molestation

· Murder

· Neighbor’s Wife

· Oral Sex

· Panties

· Penis

· Perpetrator

· Plan

· Plot

· Pornography

· Pride of Life

· Rape

· Sade-Masochism

· Sensuality

· Sexual Abuse

· Sexual Perversion

· Sexual Pleasure

· Short Skirts

· Sodomy

· The Devil in a red dress

· Transgender

· Transsexual

· Transvestite

· Triggers

· Uncleanness

· Vagina

· Voyeurism

· Weight due to lack of sex

· Witchcraft

Listed above are words that represent possible titles for dissertations, white papers, long and short articles. Over time as we, build momentum for the actual published book the plan is to cover the above topics.